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i've been meaning to blog, but i haven't known what to say. today is my mom's birthday. tomorrow is my dad's. years are passing so much faster now. it's odd, really.
hmmm. what to say...
i've started to write a blog a few times, but i just haven't wanted to be very introspective lately. it gets exhausting. i was so deeply inside of my thoughts this summer that it made me lose touch with reality. i mean, it was good for me to do that with where i was, but it's been a really weird transition.
i am finally begining to realize the little protective bubble i had myself in for a few months there. i would stay at home most of the summer unless i was gone on a trip. and even when i was on trips, i would shut down a lot. except for washington, which was why it was completely exhausting mentally and emotionally for me. that's when things changed, i guess. i sort of created a new life with new friends and avoided anyone from my past who i'd have to answer questions from.
i'm finally hanging out with my friends again. i avoided casey and lindsey for awhile, and now they're back in my world. i'm hanging out with some old friends and new friends. for the past month, my life has been consumed with "fun," i guess. my little bubble was really legalistic and full of work to no end. seeing my friends made me miss all the careless fun that makes up so much of who i am. not that i enjoy wasting time, but i like to be able to spend time with people i love without working on a time-consuming project. and the latter was my summer.
neither of these extremes are a good place for me. the legalistic bubble just made me tired. i was effective at doing good, but how much was i examining and taking in from my awesome experiences? not a lot, and that's pretty shameful. i took on too much, because i'm an eager overacheiver with many abilities. and i got tired. so then i made it to the other extreme of just letting it all go for a little while in order to be irresponsible and have fun doing what i wanted to do. not really caring if i let people down, shutting down my intellect so i could just enjoy trivialities. i'm aware of how dangerous that is as well.
i've been really depressed lately. just completely emotionally exhausted over all of this whirlwind recently. see, because being legalistic, i was able to pretend that i was as put-together as i looked like. but when i'm self-seeking, everyone sees the disappointing weaknesses i have. having so many friends and people i see everyday makes me happy, but when i'm depressed and when i can't be impressive, i hate it. it makes me even more depressed, because i feel like i'm making a fool out of myself for everyone to see.
i know not everyone really notices or cares, but some people do. my parents have noticed. shelby has noticed. my kids at church have noticed. i'm pretty involved with a guy i like, and i've over-analyzed everything to death so much so that i've really frustrated him a few times. so even he's noticed. i'm back to the same lesson i can never learn--that i can't please everyone. i've backed out on some opportunities lately, and it's been hard. but it's been necessary. my focus on God is flawed. it's not as directed as it should be. it's scattered between people i love and commitments to service and ministry, and i just can't juggle it all anymore.
i'm finding that balance, and i can honestly say that today i'm feeling more joyful that i've felt in a long time. i'm tired of not being myself to everyone. i'm a mess of a person. i have issues. i believe the worst of every situation. i'm currently over-analyzing every situation in my life so much that i can't enjoy any of it. but i'm making a conscious effort to breathe and not punish all the awesome people in my life right now for the damage someone else has done to me in the past.
this post was scattered. i guess i'm just trying to say that i like knowing myself. i like being introspective. i like analyzing people. but it gets exhausting when i'm ever changing and people are ever changing. i can't keep going in cycles of introspection and shallow living. i have to find a balance, because it's super destructive and confusing to the people around me.
ps: the movie "devil" was pretty awesome.